Courage...

If you had been disappointed by someone’s behavior towards you at a time when you felt that you really, really needed that specific person to be there for you, would you resolve the issues the first opportunity you get to be in that person’s company and share how you feel regardless of the outcome or response of the other person?  OR would you just leave it and carry on as if that moment didn’t happen. However your view of this person went from a 10 to a 4 and you might not now be able to let’s say have the same friendship/relationship as before you needed them. I am just trying to get some clarity for myself, I have agreed to meet up with someone that indeed has disappointed me and I am a bit scared of my response to that person, because of my anger that still resides inside. This was a scenario I sketched to a close friend of mine to get clarity for myself on a decision I had to make. He then told me this,

 “Courage is the desire to maintain our integrity when it’s easier to look the other way”

I thought OKAY, what is that supposed to mean, I then had to ask myself the question what is really important in this scenario for me, is standing for what I believe in more important to me than keeping the peace with this person and you know what , yes it is! And I went and I met up with that person and I closed this door of my life, I realized that people don’t know how they affect you until you tell them, people won’t know how to deal with you unless you school them , people won’t know how you would like to them to treat you unless you make that clear to them, I am not saying be rude and blunt, there are ways to say things and to make sure they understand where you are coming from, we live in a society where everyone is so in haste of everything, they are always rushing from point A to B and then we filter this behavior through all the areas of our lives that when it comes to relational issues we encounter and we always take the easy way out, because being courageous is real hard when you are an emotional creation like me.

Our minds are conditioned to what we expose it to and when we are familiar with certain things our mind stores that behavior for when we come to a similar situation   and then the behavior that matches that situation comes to the fore, but we will still get the same results therefore there is a saying that goes “doing the same thing all the time and wanting a different outcome, is insanity” so for us to change our behavior we need to equip ourselves with resources that will recondition our minds to affect a different behavior. “If you do what you have always done you will get what you’ve always got”, heard this before? I know you must have, so my challenge to you is this, recondition your mind by reading positive influential resources, read the Bible more there is a scripture that goes:

 “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2

If you are not into the Bible, then read encouraging books, motivational books by Keith Harrel, his book called “Attitude is everything” is a very good book to read as well as Myles Munroe’s “Maximize your potential”, more books by Joyce Meyer, Paula White and the list is endless, so start with a book, go to the library if you don’t have funds or borrow form a friend, start investing in yourselves so that others will find it easier to invest in youJ. My best investment where a book is concern is definitely my pocket Bible!

God Bless you all!