I have been in a 'pruning season' since the beginning of the year first I deleted over 200 people off my Facebook, then I cleared out my phone book on my phone and literally removing myself from social networks.
I deactivated my LinkedIn account as well as my Twitter Account.
Why you might ask? Here's the reason before all of this I was BUSY very busy checking updates for this updating that and it was all futile, however I lost precious moments with my kids, my husband, these distractions have been the cause of many arguments in my marriage.
What I have learned is this:
1. Having all of the accounts on social networks actually made me feel 'all over the place' like my energy was all over, when I did remove these distractions I became more centred and at peace.(True story)
2. I wasn't missed, I am still not missed
3. All the people I had on my Facebook, and phone book, not one noticed I was gone or enquired where I am, question I asked myself 'was I really a 'friend' for them? No I wasn't I was just another person whom they wanted to have in their lives to tag along, well I know my worth and I don't need neither want to tag along in anyones life without having a purpose.
4. I have time now to tend to the things that makes me who I am, like being a mother, and a wife, I even have more time to dream about my house and how I would like it to be.
5. I have time to speak to my husband one on one not via text, to connect with him without distractions, or a notification going off of this and that social network.
These are but a few lessons I have learned in the last 4 months. Life is what you make of it.
What are you busy with that is not important? What are you busy with that is taking you away from your wife /husband, kids and other important values of yours?
Most importantly what has taken the place of God in your life?
"No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money." Matthew 6:24
Its been a rough 4 months of pruning and I somehow believe that God isn't finished with me yet He is still pruning me and simplifying my life. The most saddest thing is that, I have realized is as much as technology and social networks can be fun and informative it can also be to our detriment.
Don't wait until your relationship with God to become non existent before you take time out to spend with Him, don't wait till your marriage is in such a bad state you don't know where to begin to switch yourself off from the things that has affected your marriage negatively and start to salvage what you can. Our kids grow up so fast and they need us to be present in their lives not absent and busy with 'futile' things that means nothing.
Give yourself away to your marriage, family and God and see how much more meaningful your life will become with you and I 'simplifying' our lives. You deserve it, your marriage deserves it and so does your kids.
Take it one day at a time, one thing at a time and give control back to yourself and give God more space in your life as you simplify(remove things).
I will continue with this 'Simplifying' topic as God leads me, there is a lot that we can learn from this.
Stay Blessed!
In His Love, Zenneline Louw
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