STOP TRYING TO BY PASS EVERYTHING

What on earth are we birthing when we are always wanting to “by pass” everything?

Yes trials and tribulations are daunting and they exhaust us however the lessons we learn in the midst of our trials are so invaluable why would we want to by pass anything?

This morning I feel like shouting “STOP TRYING TO BY PASS EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE!!” JUST FREAKEN STOP IT!!

Lately I am learning that everyone is interested in the mountain top experiences where success is the order of the day, everything is good and everyone is HAPPY. We jump from one place of being okay to the next place of being OKAY. We are not born to live an “OKAY” life. It seems too much work to actually get to the root causes of our issues, yet that is exactly what we need to do. In order for things to change the root must be plucked out so that there is room for new to be established.

Do we actually deal with the why’s? Of things, no we don’t because we have been conditioned to “cope” and so we don’t deal with stuff, we put a lid on it and we mozy on to the next thing on our to do list and we bypass sorting out the actual causes of our problems...

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us, it’s not in some of us it is in all OF US (Extract from “Our Deepest Fear” by Marianne Williamson).

Let me back up a bit...

The most valuable lessons I have learned in my life was when I was facing immense challenges and in these challenges I was asking God “What do I need to learn?” Most often than not I witness how people praise others on their successes and I often wonder do we even sit for a moment and think “How did they get there?” What made them to be this successful? What did they overcome to get to where they are now?. So instead of asking these questions, we perceive in our minds that it must have been easy.

Sorry to disappoint you , success does not come easy so what makes you think that your success would be easy? And why are you wishing your struggle away when it’s in the very struggle that your character will be tested, in the very struggle that you will grow into who you are meant to be.

So may I ask, actually I BEG OF YOU!! Please stop with the quick fixes and the bypassing of obstacles because you know what that creates? It creates shallow human beings and a mentality that says “it’s easy” Bypassing strips you of value and quality. Quick fixes cheapens everything and it subtracts value.

Diamonds are formed through the fire... go through your fire do not despise the invaluable lessons awaiting you when you are passing through your fire, don't opt for a short cut or to bypass it, choose to go through it!

RANT OVER!

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