Such truth in this picture. I saw this picture message on a page I follow on Facebook and it made me think and reflect and I shared it on my page but I didn't elaborate at the time because I was still filled with negative emotions.Then this morning a friend of mine shared it on her page and these are my thoughts about this and I am referring to friendships/relationships with family and just relationships in general. So please allow me to express myself..
What is most difficult to comprehend is that we allow people to have so much space in our lives and they give so little of their time to us...It hurts immensely when you know how committed you are to certain friendships/relationships and you get absolutely the bare minimum and that fact is what is making me walk away from many.
Zainonesha had this to say about it "So true...then one has to settle with lame excuses as if our lives are depending on it. Be Honest I would say"
Yes I understand that we are all in different levels of our journey however I am beginning to think that we truly are living in a lazy world like it's too much work to invest in our relationships.Most of the time we do not value each other's time and we are selfish in general and so we take and take and take and we never give.Because it's so good to be on the receiving, or is it?
If giving is in your nature, then you will end up giving and giving and it would seem as if no one will return the favor. Let's face it it hurts when you get to know a side of someone that you feel may have offended you and you were not perhaps ready to accept that truth however I think if we value the person and relationship we will fight for it but if their isn't a mutual understanding of the dynamics of the friendship/relationship then perhaps it's time to walk away.
We often see the posts about walking away from the things that doesn't serve us and yet we still hold onto friendships/relationships that are self-serving in that we are there invested however the other party has left the building a long time ago. We still offer our time and energy in the hopes of something changing but nothing happens and so we have to decide to close the door and move on not because we don't care however cause they don't care anymore.
I believe with my whole hear that if any relationship/friendship is valued to spend time with the investment will never be wasted and both parties must value the friendship/relationship equally for it to work.
It takes courage to walk away from things that doesn't serve us any longer however it is extremely important to our self-care and also to our value system that we do what is best for us.
What message are we sending to others who don't value the time we spent on investing in them if we forever just allow them to not invest their time, we just give and give and give..yet we do not receive anything. How much more do we want to be the last on priority lists?
What's most difficult to do as well is that as we learn to value our self-worth or our self-worth increases to us it is difficult to close doors on relationships/friendships that has been around for years however it's quite easy to walk away when we do know our value and we decide what's best for us and make no excuses to walk away...
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