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Complaining is a form of communication

Have you ever complained? Ha! If you are anything like me (like I used to be) I loved complaining and being the victim, I would complain about what others have done to me, how they made me do things, yes me Zenneline Life Coach & Mentor, I complained how my spouse hurt me, how bad I was treated and yes always saying I am not innocent in all of this I had my part to play, however I got angry at my circumstances and where I was at, but all I did was complain to any one who would listen about how bad I actually had it, did it help me? NO! It just made me feel worse!

So I decided to keep quiet, I decided to STOP my complaining and change ME, change my attitude to one of GRATITUDE. I started Journaling everyday for almost a week, everyday I wrote about 10 things that I was grateful for and that changed my heart it changed my thought patterns, instead of focusing on what I didn’t have, I now focused on what I did have, which made my life pretty awesome!!

What I have found is that most often than not we blame others for our behaviours but if we want things to change for the better we are the ones standing in our own way, I realized that I was my worst enemy, I was my own GIANT and I needed to get out of my own way. It’s not easy to do that because you are at war with yourself, however when you see how it will benefit you its pretty easy to do.

I am glad I got out of my way! How about you? CAN YOU RELATE?

“Be the change you want to see!”

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