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How valuable is your time to YOU?

Do you always avail yourself for others? I do! You know that moment when you set out a specific time for someone and you got so used to that person meeting you at that time and these days its when you get used to chatting with someone on Whatsapp, Facebook chat, BBM or whatever social network site you are into. The disappointment remains the same when that person doesn't meet with you any longer, it hurts because you gotten yourself used to that. I have recently had that experience it was a comfort zone I got myself into. When that person was now all of a sudden busy and no longer had time for me I felt abandoned, I felt rejected to an extent. I was suffering in silence as it were…

It dawned on me even though I made it a priority to chat with this person I devalued my sense of time, my time didn't mean much to me because I availed myself no matter what I was busy with, I would answer every text in the fastest way possible and of course I projected that onto that person and was horribly disappointed when that person was no longer there. I got myself in a fix and I suffered in silence.

So what do you do when you are in this fix? You know what I did, I started using my time for my benefit, I decided to spend more time with my children, I decided to get back to my writing, I decided to use my time for doing good instead of abusing my time and being abused in return. I found this way I feel more fulfilled and my view have not changed of that person, I respect that person’s busyness at this time and it wont stop me from engaging in text conversations with that person again, I just wont allow it to affect me negatively anymore.
 

Life happens and when it does we must be flexible enough to adjust our habits accordingly so that it best serve us, we cant change others, we can only change ourselves and everyday is a chance for you
and me to be better than what we were yesterday…

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