Skip to main content

What you allow will continue

Question: What have you allowed in your life to bring you down to a level that you actually feel less of yourself? What have you allowed to dictate your behavior in such a way that you feel as if you just exist?

I have allowed the opinions of others to matter most in my life and in turn it has actually silenced my own voice, I worked so hard at pleasing others because I didn't want any drama and in the end I was the one who got hurt, I would spend days crying and wrestling with myself knowing I was not happy but I put others happiness first, I wasn't worried about me. Unbeknownst to me I set a standard that I followed to my detriment, I became sick, my chest packed up and it was as if God said “STOP!”

At that point I had to decide to put myself first, it was difficult. It became a daily choice of mine to do things for myself for example taking that long bath and just cutting everything and everyone off, I even started switching my phone off just for 1 hour at a time, so that I CAN TEND TO MYSELF. Not because I didn't want to hear from anyone or be there for others but because I had to tend to myself, see to my own needs, lavish myself with the love I bestowed on others, it was hard however as they say “practice makes perfect”. I am no where near being a master in tending to myself I am however well on my way…

I have learned that I am the director of my own life’s movie and I can teach others how to treat me, I can teach others what I will allow and what I won’t allow. I have found my own voice and it wasn't easy, as passionate as I am at being someone else’s voice in standing up for them I had to stand up for myself, I had to make my own voice heard not in a rude manner but in a very graceful way by demonstrating what isn't OK and what is OK for me, not because I want to keep me better than others but because I know someone who knows my worth and because of Him and His gentle ways I have learnt not to allow people to treat me anyway I don’t like, what we (you and I) allow good or bad will continue…


What changes do you need to make to make sure what you allow is good for you?

  1. Decide what you will allow for your benefit
  2. Decide what you will NOT allow for your benefit
  3. Re-enforce it daily

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Dust yourself off and try again...

Life hey, things change in a blink of an eye yet when we remain standing in the Lord it feels as though you and I can conquer anything as long as we abide in Him.   I would be lying if I say to you that I am the optimistic Zenneline this morning because I am not, I am terribly conflicted. However I am finding solace in writing this because I know that someone out there will be encouraged by this. I reflect alot , on where I was and where I am and where I am going and I see the Lord's hand in all of it more often than not. As I am sitting here writing this with tears running down my cheeks as I feel so sad this morning, a total different experience to the one I had last week however I am thankful that I can still get up and breathe and brush myself off and try again. It being a new day should be good enough to start afresh but how does one do that when you feel that your whole world has been shaken. I always say that it's not what happens to us that matters it'...
1 comment
Read more

I THANK YOU...

Today I have this IMMENSE gratitude towards people whom I have known for a season and whom have now either removed themselves from my life with ill intentions or whom has accepted my way of ending our season. I must say I never thought that some friendship doors that I had to close were laying so heavily on my heart and it was holding me back. I do feel FREE and I am moving forward at a pace that is surprising me, ALL GLORY TO GOD! I have such gratitude towards those people who have moved on for whatever reason and I am so filled with JOY this morning that my soul cannot contain it and I want to speak a blessing over each person whom I have had the honor of knowing but who has now moved on, I pray a blessing of GREAT things to come in your life and I PRAY THAT GOD WILL SHOW YOU MIGHTY THINGS AND THAT YOU WILL STAY CLOSE TO JESUS, IN JESUS NAME,MAY YOU LATTER BE GREATER THAN YOUR FORMER, IN JESUS NAME, AMEN! Just a small ENCOURAGEMENT for those out there who is still holding onto to...
Post a Comment
Read more

My 2018 Lessons learned..

Tonight I have so much joy in my heart, as I reflect on this year. We have had so many setbacks yet God ordained our come back. We are on the verge of entering a new season and I am so expectant within my spirit. I cannot contain the excitement. This year has taught to love my family, my husband, my kids and my mother and not forgetting my Bestie Bianca. These were the ones who stood by me this year when I was down and out they picked up. My best friend has been a sister to me in word and deed God has strengthened our relationship so much. The ones whom I thought were my sisters they fell by the way side and made me wiser. Life showed me who will show up and support me. Through all of our setbacks and trials I have learned to trust in Jesus more and less on man. GOD HAS allowed me to accept the things I cannot change and accept people for who they are. GOD has taught me to forgive quickly and continue to pray for the ones who persecute me and cause me harm, God has taught ...
Post a Comment
Read more