What you allow will continue

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Question: What have you allowed in your life to bring you down to a level that you actually feel less of yourself? What have you allowed to dictate your behavior in such a way that you feel as if you just exist?

I have allowed the opinions of others to matter most in my life and in turn it has actually silenced my own voice, I worked so hard at pleasing others because I didn't want any drama and in the end I was the one who got hurt, I would spend days crying and wrestling with myself knowing I was not happy but I put others happiness first, I wasn't worried about me. Unbeknownst to me I set a standard that I followed to my detriment, I became sick, my chest packed up and it was as if God said “STOP!”

At that point I had to decide to put myself first, it was difficult. It became a daily choice of mine to do things for myself for example taking that long bath and just cutting everything and everyone off, I even started switching my phone off just for 1 hour at a time, so that I CAN TEND TO MYSELF. Not because I didn't want to hear from anyone or be there for others but because I had to tend to myself, see to my own needs, lavish myself with the love I bestowed on others, it was hard however as they say “practice makes perfect”. I am no where near being a master in tending to myself I am however well on my way…

I have learned that I am the director of my own life’s movie and I can teach others how to treat me, I can teach others what I will allow and what I won’t allow. I have found my own voice and it wasn't easy, as passionate as I am at being someone else’s voice in standing up for them I had to stand up for myself, I had to make my own voice heard not in a rude manner but in a very graceful way by demonstrating what isn't OK and what is OK for me, not because I want to keep me better than others but because I know someone who knows my worth and because of Him and His gentle ways I have learnt not to allow people to treat me anyway I don’t like, what we (you and I) allow good or bad will continue…


What changes do you need to make to make sure what you allow is good for you?

  1. Decide what you will allow for your benefit
  2. Decide what you will NOT allow for your benefit
  3. Re-enforce it daily

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