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Day 4: The Proverbial Girl

SAY WHAT?

She will be a 5-star friend at all times.

BREAKDOWN: Imagine booking a night in a fancy hotel. You are so excited. You take in all it's beauty as the clerk at the front desk checks you in. You can't wait to get into your own private room, but when you do arrive you are greeted with chaos. The room doesn't appear to have been cleaned, the bathroom floor is sticky and the shower looks like it's been used by everyone else in the hotel. You're confused because the hotel has received a 5-star rating, but what you are experiencing is a 2-star disaster!

We often become friends in the same manner when we "check-in" to what we believe will be the perfect friendship, only for it to end up being a complete nightmare. She lied on you. She betrayed you. She let you down. Let's face it, none of us have been the perfect friend, and the only friendship whose quality you can guarantee is your own.

John 15:15 tells us that Jesus calls us friend. Imagine that! As often as we are unreliable, unpredictable and sometimes dishonest with Him, He still calls us friend. He calls us friend because of His loyalty to us, not necessarily ours to Him. He loves us and love makes adjustments for other people's shortcomings.

"She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." It's interesting how the proverb refers to her loyalty not his. Seems a bit unfair, huh? Being a 5-star friend does not rest on the person you are on the outside, but who you are inside. A Proverbial Girl is a good friend who knows her friends' strengths and weaknesses. When she sees her friend has challenges with being honest, loyal or reliable, she is able to draw limits based on what her friend is able to handle because she's a 5-star friend.

HI GOD, IT'S ME!
It's not easy being a good friend t o someone who is not a good friend to you. Hel p me t o draw healthy boundaries in relationship s. Teach me where to give more and when to step back. Remind me t o pray f or my friend and t o love t hem t he way you love me, unconditionally. In Jesus' name, Amen.

LIVE IT OUT:
Identify a friend who is a little rough around the edges. Ask her how you can pray for her, and commit to doing it.

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