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It's been a while...

It's been a while since I have been writing and lately I have been bursting inside with so many things I would love to share. In the midst of trials I tend to just isolate because I am often thinking that others are going through far worse than me. A few people I hold dear to me and believe me it's a hand full of them, will actually know what I am going through.

Today I just want to share a thought that I have been "grappling" with for this last week. It has dawned on me that we are very different in thought and habits and often if we don't intentionally connect with others for our own the connection never happens.

I have also learned that Friendships are a two way street, you get out of it what you put into it. I am not a "tit-for-tat" person I do as I want to be done to me. For example if I want someone to greet me then I would greet first or if I want to anything in life, I will sow in that way (am I making sense?).

So this thing I have been "grappling" with is "Seeing someone and acknowledging someone are two different things. So let me unpack it a bit.

Seeing someone, you see them and you walk on but you don't make eye contact, you don't linger for that person to finally take note of you , you just move along no connection whatsoever.

However acknowledging someone and the way I understand it is you see them, you make eye contact you are sure that they know you are there and you both greet each other and off you go.

So now here is the thing, why is it that some people will acknowledge you when they are alone (when no one is with them) and when there are people with them they don't even see you, it's like you are invisible. But you know what I have learned in this process and "grappling" with this thought is , I can let this bother me or I can just accept it for what it is and in the future perhaps not be as keen to share my space and time with others or maybe I can just be me , the friendly, caring person that I am and accept that people as they are and love on them the way that I want to be loved on.

For when I chose the latter behavior I am indeed sowing the seeds that I want to be sown to me...

Have a wonderful weekend!!

PS: Please comment below what you would like me to write about. I am going to attempt to write daily about the things I face and how I handle them (if they get handled). Basically my life journey in Blog form. I believe we can all learn from others experiences and hopefully I am able to share some wisdom that will help you in whatever way. Thank you for your time and support, I appreciate you reading my Blog.

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  1. I have the same issue in my work environment. It used to bother me a lot - but Now I don't care who greets me back. I like greeting so that's that...I am ME

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