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Friend to keep or to let go, that is the question...

I wrote this on the16-03-2010 it is basically a continuation of the previous blog just thought I would share this too, enjoy!!

Today I am so feeling the Holy Spirit and I am doing so much reflection on my life and my walk with God, at times I do feel as if I am lukewarm because the little I do is little in my eyes but it does at times make a huge impact unbeknown to me. Have you ever felt that you are the one doing all the things where friendships are concern? I do and I still feel like it daily but at times it does drain me and then I need to do some spring cleaning in my friendship cupboard it’s hard hey! Sometimes I get to a point where I feel that I am more reliant on my friendships than my friends because it feels like they are my sound board and I just bounce stuff off them, funny, but true. Ever had a conversation with someone and you ask a question and then you end up answering the question isn’t it weird? 

That happens to me all the time; I guess we just want people or our friends to listen to what we have to say. Even if it means we answer ourselves, at times it isn’t us or me that answer myself it’s the Holy Spirit and we just need others to help us bring it out, don’t know if it makes sense but just think about it this way, when you get something that is bothering you or you have this strong feeling that you need to do something but u are  not sure so now you talk with someone about it and all of a sudden the light bulb goes off in your head and you get the confirmation you need and then you feel better and you go with that strong feeling, to me that is the Holy Spirit. I have been reflecting on my friendships and God has been saying to me “Stop saying yes to people, stop allowing people to take advantage of you” its hard and sometimes I hear the warning but I wait for confirmation and God uses people to bring a message across to you, believe me, so when I got this command from God I have had to go to my friendship cupboard and really look into it and pick the friends that I felt was draining me, you know when you are the one who does all the calling, all the reaching out basically all the everything. 

So God challenged me and said, tell them how they make you feel, tell them and I was like “But Lord I don’t want to hurt their feelings” and God is like “But they have taken advantage of you and I require of you to speak the truth in love” I was like how? How do you speak the truth in love without the other party taking offense? Well it was pretty easy, you PRAY before you speak and you rely on the Holy Spirit to speak instead of you that is how simple it is. Was it easy no but did I do it YES and was that person changed I don’t know but I felt better about myself and I felt a little more comfortable in my own skin, and I believe that is why God spoke to me for my confidence to become stronger in Him.

“For I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13

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