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To B "THE fRiEnD" Or To B "A fRiEnD"

They say you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends, which brought on this thought, I have had to let go of friendships which was one draining, abusive(when I say abusive I mean, friends that abuse your time with their drama and all they can talk about is there drama and you just have to listen, mind you I have been a friend like that who just carried on talking about my life and how my life is messed up and how I want my life to change, sad to say I was extremely selfish at one point) that is of course before I knew that I can control what I say and what I let in my ears, now we all need friends, yes we do, but we need to be alert and we need to really choose our friendships wisely, to me a true friend is someone who knows your heart and not just you, a true friend is someone who will be there when you need them and tell you what is right regardless of how you are feeling emotionally because they want the best for you.

Since I have cleared out my friendship cupboard I am not afraid to be me, to put up boundaries and to just be who God wants me to be, we get attached to friends and their lives and we end up tagging along in their lives, some friends have no goals or aspirations, no vision and they are happy  with where they are even if they are not going anywhere and then you become like them, there is a saying that goes “if you are an eagle don’t hang around with chickens because chickens cant fly”, another thing that is oh so very true is this you are who you hang around with, if you hang around with people who constantly complain, nag, are negative by nature, believe it or not you are on your way to become just like them, there are four kinds of friends in life, those that subtract and divide and those that add and multiply, it’s your choice which ones you want, for me I choose the ones who add value to my life, I choose those who wants to see me be successful, I choose those who loves me for who I am and not who they want me to be, I choose people who wants to see my life increase and multiply, the first two is just not an option, don’t make friends a priority in your life when you are just an option in theirs.

 I had a conversation with a close friend of mine about two months ago and I said to her “I have become the friend I want someone to be to me”(I said this in the most humble way,and it does mean that now I have a high standard of what friendship means to me) and she found it quite amazing that I would say that and it made her think about herself as a friend(not that I gave her a complex), but it’s true, it really took me a while to get to this revelation but I became friends with a special someone named Jesus and I allowed Him to be my friend and because of Him  I am that friend I want others to be to me, my question to you is, What kind of friend are you? & Are you a friend to your friends that you want them to be to you?

“And so it happened just as the Scriptures say: “Abraham believed God, and God counted him as righteous because of his faith.” He was even called the friend of God.” James 2:23        

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