Expressions of Myself

"Don't let the behaviors of others destroy your inner peace ." Dalai Lama I read this quote this morning and I was reminded how I allowed someone else's behavior to literally shake my whole world that it left me unsettled for about two days. People know what they know and act accordingly, what saddened me, is that others may not be as considerate as me, and that is OK and what gave me much revelation is that I am control of me, I can be as considerate as I want to be and because I am that way I cannot expect others to be the same in that regard or for any regard for that matter, what I can do is rise above any occasion and make sure I walk in integrity, another thing I can do is to make my feelings and thoughts known in a proper manner, with much respect to the other person.

Smiles are contagious and that I know for sure, when I smile at someone else they automatically without fail smile back at me. So give the world your best smile it is the most attractive asset you possess...and it is FREE!! It wont cost you a thing!

If YOU don't STAND UP for what you believe in, don't expect others to do so... Standing UP for what you BELIEVE in doesn't need to be with hatred for others AND RUDENESS or even with demoralizing others, STAND UP with pride and dignity and if you a LADY with CLASS, use your linguistics to make your mark and bring your message through that and one last thing, follow it through with ACTIONS as it does speak louder than words, let your actions be as classy as your words...

Good Morning  ! One question: How comfortable are you in your own skin? I ask this question because for years I was not at all comfortable in my own skin, until I dealt with my issues. Paula White in her book "Deal With It" says that you cannot conquer that which you will not confront, how do we conquer the issues that haunt us such as self-hatred, anger, resentment, frustration, un-forgiveness th e list is endless with all these negative emotions control us. We have a choice, YOU have choice. when we give ourselves a chance, a second chance, a third chance as we do for so many others we will see how we will grow and how automatically we become available to others even more, giving of ourselves even more because we have started with ourselves and that is where the start has to start, with us, with YOU. No one is to be blamed for where YOU find yourself today, you have allowed whatever your situation is. Think about it, what role did you play to where you are today and what ca...

Good Morning Beautiful People! What an awesome weekend I had, spending time with my family and practicing my "silence". It has been great, many of you know that I have cancelled my Workshop and my mom's words were to me that it is so sad that I cancelled she's witnessed how hard I have worked on it, all is not lost. I am taking the remainder of the year for myself and my family and my business. So  watch this SPACE!! Greater things are yet to come. My encouragement for you TODAY and for the rest of the year is: Don't take the time spent with your FAMILY for granted, I have missed a lot of moments with my kids due to stuff that has happened however I am taking my time back. Don't sell yourself short, TIME is a precious commodity that once is lost, it is lost. Our kids and spouses needs us, so therefore I am putting first things first. Family is a very important part of my Values and a part of who I am. Yes I will be posting much less than what I am used to, how...

Good Morning Everyone! A blessed Eid Mubarak to all my Muslim friends  . I just have a little ENCOURAGEMENT I know once I get going I literally cant STOP myself so here goes!  I was chatting to a friend of mine last night and what I realize whilst talking is that it is difficult to take responsibility for ourselves, us as individuals because we are so focused on others and their well being, we sel dom think of ourselves it saddened me a bit, however when I chose to help myself, love myself, think kind thoughts toward myself my love jar became full and I was even more able to bestow all the above onto others... Friend CHANGE starts with you and you are WORTHY to be LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY, It does in fact START with YOU!! SO WHAT stops YOU from loving yourself? You do know that you matter,right? Well GO ON! SPEAK FONDLY about yourself and to yourself...Let your cup overflow... Have a WONDERFUL day!!

Good Morning Beautiful people! WOW!! I just read a comment on someone's status update it was Anthony Robbins Facebook update and the person commenting was very vulgar on replies to others. This got me thinking, WORDS. How do you use them? What is the second most common word you use on a daily basis? Is it "profane" (swear words) there is a scripture in the Bible that says "The mouth speaks out o f the overflow of the heart..." Luke 6:45 for me that means if you harbour a whole of negative emotions in your heart such as anger, resentment etc that is exactly what comes out of your heart and will come out of your mouth. Now I do not mean to offend anyone, this is said with a lot of love and we need to do some serious reflection on how we use words is it to tear down ourselves or others or uplift others or ourselves? Take a few minutes now and just reflect and make a deal with yourself to increase your positive and affirming words instead of negative and degrading, ...

I am busy reading Paulo Coelho book called "eleven minutes" its an AMAZING read, on sentence that has somehow stuck with me since yesterday and thought of it is : One thing that has us making hasty decisions is DESPAIR. The definition of DESPAIR in the dictionary is -To lose all hope, To be overcome by a sense of futility or defeat. Basically finding yourself at the END of your ROPE and not knowing which way to GO, you know what HELPS. Take a step back and SURRENDER it all to God, it may seem easy and I know it isnt I do also know that God is FAITHFUL and He does Help us in our time of need, so when you find yourself experiencing despair, don't feel like you are cornered just open your arms and hands and say  "Lord I surrender to YOU, You guide me and You take control!" Their is always time to change direction if you let yourself be steered by the ONE who knows where you are going and where you are meant to be...

Do you give up too easily?  Did you know that there are people who went before us and never gave up, they were rejected yet still they believed in their abilities to achieve great successes and left legacies for us to follow they have paved the way for us to follow in their footsteps and do even greater things one of those people who did not give up was Albert Einstein, not to forget Henry Ford, go on and read about them, you'll be AMAZED at how many times they failed or were rejected yet they DID NOT GIVE UP!!  So you reading this DO NOT have an EXCUSE to give up!! DON'T YOU DARE GIVE UP!! KEEP GOING AND TAKE THAT FIRST STEP. The Journey of a thousand miles started with ONE step. #KEEPMOVING

How much Value do you put on yourself? How you treat others is a true reflection of how you treat yourself. I can pay for a good quality coffee and enjoy it and know it was worth my money, but how different is that to me treating myself in buying a good book that will change my life even challenge me to deal with my issues that haunt me. Well maybe that is a stupid example my point being I will pay money for good quality coffee or a good meal from Woolworths yet you and I will think twice about attending a Conference / Workshop / Seminar to improve myself / yourself and the quality of our lives. How much do you Value your relationships? I read something this morning that said “ what you don’t value you neglect ” so it is then safe to say if I don’t VALUE myself I will neglect myself, therefore if I VALUE myself I will not neglect myself / I will take care of myself. If I don’t VALUE my relationships (friendships /spouses /Life Partners/Boyfriends) I will neglect them, so if we (...

I have been preparing for my Workshop for the past 3+ weeks and as daunting as it is I have this urgency in my spirit and I also have a sense of sadness, we live in this beautiful country South Africa and we have so much potential inside of us all, and you know what saddens me this next thought: You do not feel it in yourself that you are worth YOU investing in yourself, how sad is that? You and I  live years of our lives "dreaming", "daydreaming" and yet you and I never put our goals on paper, we put off everything that we can achieve today for tomorrow! Today is a NEW day what will it take for you to take a bold step towards your goals? What is in your control to do? Find that answer and DO IT with ALL your might!! I leave you with this thought /question: If you don't invest in yourself, how can you expect others to invest in you? Now you may be asking "what is investing in myself entail?" "what is it all about?" "What do I have to do?...

Today I am finished with my 6 month TB treatment, I am grateful to God for His healing hand on my life and for carrying me through the worst time I have ever experienced physically, this road wasn’t easy yet I am still standing, there were times that I was so weak and I couldn’t even walk properly let alone go to work. Its 6 month later and I am standing strong, I am breathing properly I am laughing and the coughs are gone, so is the night sweats. Why am I sharing my story today because I want to glorify God in all His splendour. “We have overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our TESTIMONY” (Revelation 12:11) Although I really don’t feel much triumph today because a friend of mine had a relapse and she suffers from spinal TB. I want to rejoice with all my heart but my heart is breaking for all that she is enduring, the word of God says “we should mourn with those who mourn…” (Romans 12:15) I would like to take this opportunity to thank each and everyone who supported me in ...

Don't associate with people you can't trust. Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend. Don't dictate because you are smarter. Don't demand because you are stronger. Don't date because you are desperate. Don't marry because you are miserable. Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior. Don't philander because you think you are irresistible. Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better. Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder. Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals. Don't stagnate! Don't regress. Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back. Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right. Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking. Learn a new skill. Find a new friend. Start a new career. Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's mor...

I love catching up with old friends it was great to speak to one of my old friends this morning, weird how one can forget how people sound but when you hear their voices it warms your heart. Friends are near and dear when we want them to be, sometimes catching up is good for the soul, sometimes we don’t realize the value people have in our lives, and I am always reminded of value these days, friendships with substance is very rare, we are in a world where people use people for personal gain, yet very few have friends who really are there for them through it all, reminds me of Jesus the forever friend always there when we need him even when we cant face ourselves because of the things we have done wrong and us keeping our distance from him, yet he remains faithful to us in our unfaithfulness… God has me on a journey of self discovery, a journey to start a fresh and it’s scary but I am willing to go through it because “obedience is better than sacrifice”. I have had this sentence in my h...

Yesterday we had our Spring Queen, it was the first one after 17 years, the whole event was planned 3 weeks prior and although there were many hick ups in the end everything came together, we hardly ever see our BIG Boss and for me it was awesome to spend a view brief moments with him. I was just reminded of the acronym for TEAM (TOGETHER, EVRYONE, ACHIEVES, MORE) the whole event wouldn’t been possible if everyone didn’t work together, the small little bits that one or many contributed made a huge impact. Beauty pageants make us uncomfortable because it is very much of the outward appearance and yesterday I saw how God restored SELF CONFIDENCE in our ladies that took part of the whole show, I was one of them and it was AMAZING. I was reminded of the Spirit of UBUNTU “I am because WE ARE”, we encouraged each other, our smiles were contagious and there was just so much love going around, I felt a part of a big family the RW Design Family. I saw people putting themselves(EGO)away for the ...

I believe everything happens for a reason we must just be awake in the moment to appreciate it all, these last two weeks random things happen, excuse my lack of ignorance if the word random is too common, let me say extraordinary moments has happened and I obliged. Last week I wrote a blog on you have a VOICE and moments later I find myself in a secret group on Facebook called Abuse No more, I didn’t question it I just went with the flow wondering what God is up to… Yesterday I met a lady by the name Zanele, who works for an NPO, she volunteers there and she asked me some hard questions, that left me somewhat startled but led me to find answers for myself. Today I popped into the Central Library wanting reserve a book that Zanele recommended Steven Covey’s 8 th Habit, I went to the Library with the intention to reserve the book because the lady I spoke to before I made my way to the Library said they didn’t have it in, but they did. Before I could find that out, I bumped into another...

My Mother Babsie & my late brother Vernon Today my dear brother Vernon Marques Mouton has passed on 8 years, he leaves behind a son who is the picture of him in everything that he does and participate in. This time of the year I know my Mom is a bundle of emotions, so is my sister and my baby brother but in the busy-ness of all our lives I felt the need today to acknowledge my brother Vernon . He had this passion for singing, he even entered in Idols SA one year and went as far as the auditions, at that time I thought WOW he has courage but also such immense belief in his ability to sing and compete among so many. Vernon I miss you and I miss the fact that I couldn't say goodbye properly but I WANT TO TELL YOU TODAY, that your son is your gift to us. Every moment I get to spend with him is like you are with me there, Ashton and I we have this thing where he can speak to me in whichever way he wants but remain his respect for me, Ashton has become a part of our family and my gir...

I try to reach out for you but I fall Sometimes you seem so close and yet so far Oh I need another chance I need to know your mercy Just give me the strength to change within I know that I am not all that I can be My weakness seems to get the best of me But as long as you are here I know that I will make it Every step along the way Please hear my prayer Refrain A heart like yours, is my desire A heart like yours, is what I am searching for Full of compassion, nothing wrong within Please hear me Lord, give me a heart like yours So much grace, so much kindness So much faith, for ever true  Strong as the wind, soft as the shadows If just once, I could be like you Refrain A heart like yours, is my desire  A heart like yours, is what I am searching for Full of compassion, nothing wrong within Please hear me Lord, give me a heart like yours Please hear me Lord, give me a heart like yours (2x) The above song touched me so much in Church yesterday, two of the ladies in our worship tea...

Today its National Woman’s Day in South Africa, a day we as women get acknowledged by others for our strength, perseverance, forbearance, longsuffering and there a lot of qualities that I can write here. On this day there are marches taking place, some are doing a Big walk all uniting in the UBUNTU (I am because we are) as I am writing this a close friend of mine suggested   that I listen to a song by Barbra Streisand it’s called “Woman in Love” , in the song she describes herself as in giving much of herself and pouring her soul into her relationship. I was curious why he chose that song for me to listen to , and it is simple really because I can resonate, giving much of myself to others and today he took time to acknowledge that character quality of mine. I am much appreciative of   that, afterall its woman’s day. There are many like myself who gets acknowledgement from others very easily yet we long for the people that are in our immediate surroundings to do so ...

Do you always avail yourself for others? I do! You know that moment when you set out a specific time for someone and you got so used to that person meeting you at that time and these days its when you get used to chatting with someone on Whatsapp, Facebook chat, BBM or whatever social network site you are into. The disappointment remains the same when that person doesn't meet with you any longer, it hurts because you gotten yourself used to that. I have recently had that experience it was a comfort zone I got myself into. When that person was now all of a sudden busy and no longer had time for me I felt abandoned, I felt rejected to an extent. I was suffering in silence as it were… It dawned on me even though I made it a priority to chat with this person I devalued my sense of time, my time didn't mean much to me because I availed myself no matter what I was busy with, I would answer every text in the fastest way possible and of course I projected that onto that person and was ...

Question: What have you allowed in your life to bring you down to a level that you actually feel less of yourself? What have you allowed to dictate your behavior in such a way that you feel as if you just exist? I have allowed the opinions of others to matter most in my life and in turn it has actually silenced my own voice, I worked so hard at pleasing others because I didn't want any drama and in the end I was the one who got hurt, I would spend days crying and wrestling with myself knowing I was not happy but I put others happiness first, I wasn't worried about me. Unbeknownst to me I set a standard that I followed to my detriment, I became sick, my chest packed up and it was as if God said “STOP!” At that point I had to decide to put myself first, it was difficult. It became a daily choice of mine to do things for myself for example taking that long bath and just cutting everything and everyone off, I even started switching my phone off just for 1 hour at a time, so that I ...

In life I  have found we have many turning points that challenges the very core my being and we must make decisions and choices that will be for the better of ourselves, I have been hurt many times and I have been in a dark space for about 3 weeks and it was as if I was just existing holding onto the routines of life because that helped me keep my sanity, I have been in a place where I see what is happening in my life and when I shared that with others it almost felt like I was not being heard, like I was lying and yet it was my reality at that time, mine alone and yes many shed light but the only way they would actually know the extent of my hurt and pain is, if they had endured what I have, I reached a turning point where I decided to rather tell my story for God’s glory because in these dark moments I found my Savior to be near to me and no matter how lonely I felt I felt my Savior’s tangible love comforting me as the scripture says in Hebrews 13:5 “I will never leave you n...

There is power in your tongue, I know what it’s like to be told that “you are not good enough”, “you will never amount to anything”, “you are nothing but a sl@#” yes these are words that wounded my soul, the very core of my being, but I chose to rise up, I chose to believe something else about myself and that journey of me believing something better about myself was not easy… I believe there are many out there whose stories goes untold because someone else forgot the power of her story, I might be a bit biased in this writing today but I am so stirred in my spirit this morning that I need to be a bit biased! Woman /Girl I am talking to you this morning, you who have been down and out battered to the bone not of physical abuse but emotional and verbal abuse, inside of you there is a strong spirit that wants you to rise up and say “ENOUGH!” TODAY is the last day I will not take this anymore!! It has to end and it ENDS RIGHT NOW!! Woman/Girl I am talking to you, you who have been told...

Have you ever complained? Ha! If you are anything like me (like I used to be) I loved complaining and being the victim, I would complain about what others have done to me, how they made me do things, yes me Zenneline Life Coach & Mentor, I complained how my spouse hurt me, how bad I was treated and yes always saying I am not innocent in all of this I had my part to play, however I got angry at my circumstances and where I was at, but all I did was complain to any one who would listen about how bad I actually had it, did it help me? NO! It just made me feel worse! So I decided to keep quiet, I decided to STOP my complaining and change ME, change my attitude to one of GRATITUDE. I started Journaling everyday for almost a week, everyday I wrote about 10 things that I was grateful for and that changed my heart it changed my thought patterns, instead of focusing on what I didn’t have, I now focused on what I did have, which made my life pretty awesome!! What I have found is that mos...

I am watching the Series “Switched @ Birth” for those who don’t know it’s about two girls that were switched at birth, the one being hearing impaired which means she can talk half way but she mostly makes use of sign language, the recent episode I watched was where the whole episode was done in Sign Language and there was no sound apart from the background music, however the rest of the episode was done in sign language which meant I needed to read the subtitles. I couldn’t help but think how difficult it was for the DEAF kids to communicate to others that have no hearing problems, this specific episode had lots of feelings portrayed like feeling undermined , feeling less of , always feeling inferior to others , always having to compete and fight for what they believe in and their right to education . This episode had the DEAF kids sharing their school with hearing kids and there was a lot of uneasiness. It made me think a lot of being MISUNDERSTOOD, how easy it for us to be misunder...

Ever heard “it’s not what you say but how you say it” that makes an impact good or bad. Truth be told I have done that many times with my husband and most often not I took offense to what he has told me. He then also pointed out that I pulled a certain face that he strongly dislikes hence this would lead to us having a disagreement of sorts. Question: How often do we actually take not of our body language and the message we want to portray? (We actually DON’T take note of it at all until someone points it out, this making us aware of it) What is your attitude when someone points out a “flaw” in you? Do you become defensive?   OR Do you take it as something that you can be worked on, and you receive it and you decide to work on it for the better? #TIP: Its always good to have a “teachable spirit” so that when someone does tell you what they dislike about you and they are saying it with love and you know you changing it will benefit you, go and do it, this way you are gaining not l...

If you are like me strong willed go getter and knowing what you want you have either stopped at one point of your life for a moment and reflected, found yourself in a place that sounds look familiar and you know you were there before, it was either a good experience or a bad/ negative experience and for me most often than not it was the excited moments I recall then I ponder on Why is things so different now? Why have those people moved on? Why are have we lost contact? Fact of the matter is those relationships had to be dissolved because it just wasn’t serving me anymore I became exhausted just wanting to be noticed by these people, you could say I was co-dependent not so much on them but the feeling I got when I was in there presence almost like an addiction, you just can’t seem to get enough. Rereading chapters in my life are a good way of me accepting my decision then and appreciating what I have right now, thankful for the lessons also grateful for what I have now. I am all ov...

I remember at school we were given prescribed reading, we didn’t have a choice but to read those Shakepeare books from “Hamlet” to “King Lear” and lets not forget “ Withering Heights ” and wait for it… “The Great Gatsby” I must admit then I really only did it because I had to and it got me through English and I passed it. As I am writing this now I am thinking of how our kids today might feel the same being obligated to read the books they are given at school, I want to take a moment to introduce you to another point of view. I remember I LOVED Afrikaans as it was /is my mother tongue as I was born in Namibia so it came naturally and I didn’t need much motivation  to read my Afrikaans Voorgeskrewe boek, in fact I couldn’t wait to finish the book, I excelled in Afrikaans because I loved it so much and it was easy in my mind. Question: How much more won’t our kids excel if we encourage a healthy habit of reading? I think our kids will excel in school in there reading, and other task...